Don't Go Changing

Today is the last day of my 3-day anniversary of my first date with Dan.  Our first date was 3 days long so we celebrate in accordance.   That was 10 years ago.  I think back to that cold winter in 2002, before I met Dan, when I was living in Vernonia, and boy, it was a bummer.  I did not want to enter the dating scene, yet I had consciously decided it was time to breathe some new light into my life.   What I thought was going to be just a “lunch date” though turned into a most pivotal point in my life.  I wonder what my life would be like now, had I not brazenly posted my “wanted” ad on the internet and snuck out of work to meet the boy who “hated basketball, coleslaw and liars.”  Dan rocked my world.  So much has happened … I’ve changed my marital status 2 times, my parental status, careers 3 times, residency 4 times, economic status 3 times, weight 4 times… however if feels more like I’ve gone back in time, to a time when I was very young.

I use to think that people are ever-evolving.   I now think we are less evolving, and more that life is happening and we shift around our center, our true being, in a dance with life.   Being with Dan has been like coming home to that center.   There are less showy disco moves and more two-steps.  Less notions and more knowing.   Less stripping away of the layers that life piles on, and more nudity.   Underneath the layers of time, we found each other’s perfect little being, like we were when we entered this earth. 

Many times when I look at our daughter, bursting with life, I know she is the true seed of love.  Perfect and pure, before all of life’s happenings get in the way.  I like to think about love that way.  And hold onto it.  

All good love-stories should have a good song... this one is from our wedding...